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Obstinate or Brilliant?

Marshawn Lynch – Is he just stubborn? Acting like a child? Or BRILLIANT?

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Dutch, Qualk and Andrew tackle the Marshawn Lynch enigma on this Mental Toughness segment on Out of Bounds (WCCP 105.5 FM The Roar).

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Andrew reveals how Marshawn Lynch is employing a brilliant critical thinking strategy, taking a past problem of shyness and difficulty communicating, even with teammates and turning it into a capital asset by:

1) Weighing the RISK/REWARD ratio – Fines are tax deductible with all checks written directly by the player to a charity directed by the NFL

2) He has a limited shelf-life as a running back

3) He needs to differentiate himself with a Unique Selling Proposition

4) The less he says, the more we want him to say and give him more attention (You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink – but you can SALT his OATS to make him thirsty)

The results are impressive, his Skittles ad, playing off of his media shyness goes instantly mega-viral, increasing his value as a celebrity endorser.

With good coaching, anyone can take problems or weaknesses and make them strengths – even turning being obstinate into brilliance.

Hall of Fame Mindset & the Science of Visualization

Mindset &Visualization: Keys to Greatness

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Qualk (from WCCP 105.5 FM) and I, discuss the mindset that separates the Hall-of-Famer from the rest of the pack, including breaking down the 4 -tracks of thinking:

1) Auto-pilot: Disengaged, life is a box of chocolates – you never know what you’re going to get

2) Negative: Ruminating on past mistakes, always anxious and expecting the worst outcome possible – reroutes your brain’s neurons away from focus, attention and motor control, and releases cortisol and other hormones into the body sending it on a track of sleeplessness, lethargy, fat storing and stress-related diseases.

3) Positive: Better than negative mindset, but can produce bad results – everything is NOT always sunshine, flowers, waterfalls and unicorns.

4) World Class Mindset: Utilizes CRITICAL THINKING skills, separates emotion from the decision making equation and relies on logic, has an execution-based focus, does not pay attention to stats, the scoreboard, or accolades.  This mindset reroutes the neural connections to bypass the reward center of the brain and sends signals to the areas directly controlling motor function.

Qualk and I, also discuss the science (biopsychology) behind Visualization and how creating an IMAX-quality movie clip of how you want to perform gets your body and your mind lined up to produce the results you desire.

 

Mental Toughness on Out of Bounds

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CLICK Here to Listen to the latest Mental Toughness segment on WCCP The ROAR with Qualk and Dutch – Out of Bounds Nov 12, 2014

 

This week we discussed the mindset needed for FSU to overcome the continued drop in the College Playoff Rankings and the mental misfiring of the Chicago Bears offense.

Catch the Mental Toughness segment on Out of Bounds with Qualk & Dutch LIVE each Wednesday at 11:25am on WCCP 105.5 The Roar. CLICK HERE

Mirror, Mirror…

Don’t Mistake Bringing Clarity For Being Confrontational

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As a Critical Thinking and Mental Toughness Consultant, I have been accused of being confrontational, nothing could be farther from being accurate. Often, bringing clarity, by offering a path to objective reality, is mistaken for being confrontational. In my role as a consultant, I offer a question or a series of questions for the client(s) to ask themselves. I don’t ask the questions to them, I offer them questions to ask themselves. And there is no right or wrong answer, no accusations, and no moral judgments attached.

In Mental Toughness we strictly judge results, e.g. Ask yourself:

Is my attitude helping me or hurting me?
Is not going to the doctor for a checkup helping me or hurting me?
Am I deluding myself in any area of my life? (Health, Career, Relationships, Finances, etc.)

Many times over, I have had clients react to the clarity they hired me to bring, by lashing out, “You should be nurturing and not so confrontational. We didn’t have these problems until you came here.”

As my wife’s sweet Southern Belle Grandmother would say, “Bless their darlin’ hearts.” That’s akin to going to the doctor for a physical and being diagnosed with Type II Diabetes and blaming the physician, “I didn’t have Diabetes before I came to you!”

I can remember sitting in a series of meetings with a guy who said at least 6 times that he had twenty CEO’s lined up to present a project he was working on. Finally, after two months of these claims, someone asked him who they were, could he name them, or at least the companies. “Twenty” CEOs became “two” CEOs, and he immediately began complaining that folks were being confrontational.

Like the Queen in the fairy tale “Snow White”, no one likes to take an honest look in the mirror and have it point out anything unflattering, myself included. However, the momentary sting of objective reality has become something I crave, for without it, no problem can be solved –
Not in my health (not eating right or excising and then avoiding the doctor’s diagnosis doesn’t mean I’m healthy),

Not in my business (just because a customer says their word is their bond doesn’t mean I don’t get it in writing),

Not in my marriage (not putting my spouse first, like I affirmed in my marriage vows, can be spun anyway I want… but why should I think that approach would work? Divorce stats answer that question. And oh, by the way, not getting married and avoiding the vows, is like avoiding the doctor, the “divorce” still hurts, and Type II Diabetes can still kill you),

Not in my relationship with my kids (buying them stuff but not keeping my word and being there for them isn’t creating trust),

Not in my finances (still having available credit on my Visa to spend is not being prosperous).

Asking for clear, relevant, accurate and precise information isn’t being confrontational, it is critical thinking, it is objective reality, it is the basis and foundation of wise decisions that bring worthy and valuable results.

The mirror ain’t wrong, so don’t blame anyone else for what you see staring back at you. Oh, an avoiding the mirror, like the doctor, isn’t going to make you not have what you don’t want to see.

Boo Yah!

Desensitize Yourself:

Trepidation To Trite 

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Back in the late 1990’s, I drove through the gates of the Federal Law Enforcement Training Center, in Glynco, GA. I was met by the security force (FLETsee 5-0, as we called them), and the horrid and putrid sulfuric smell of the nearby paper mill. WOW! The odor was like fermented rotten eggs on steroids with Brussel Sprouts on top (insert gagging here)! I’m not sure how long it took, but by the time I was bedding down that first night, I didn’t notice the smell any longer. Wind shift perhaps? No, desensitization. My brain had shut down sending the out the “foul odor signals” and allowed me to function normally, without the gagging and choking back down the rising bile and vomit it caused.

The same thing happens when eating that yummy special meal of your “favorite” food. Once you eat it so much that it no longer becomes special, it doesn’t taste that great. In fact, if that’s all you had to eat, every meal of every day, it wouldn’t be your favorite before long, and wouldn’t even taste good. It would become trite, banal, boring and downright blah.

Alcohol is the same. That initial drink that puts a teetotaler on his or her butt, with head spinning, has no impact on the seasoned-drinker that can hold his or her liquor. We humans quickly build up a tolerance for things, or put another way, are easily desensitized. When Elvis first hit the scene with gyrating hips, it was shocking. Looking back now, after almost 60 years of desensitization, his movies are deemed mild enough for preschoolers.

What if we deployed this phenomenon to our advantage? The Warrior Culture has been doing it for eons. First, we must take an honest assessment of what causes us fear, trepidation and anxiety. Once recognized, go and do the very thing(s) that you fear. Very quickly your trepidation will become trite, just like that favorite meal eaten over and over again. Panic becomes pedestrian.
During a family trip to the beach, I had my 16 year-old son drive the majority of the time. He was a new and inexperienced driver at the time. He had fear and trepidation about driving on I-95 for several hours, in the midst of beach traffic, thunderstorms and high-speed lane changes. After about an hour, he went from butterflies to banal. And after two more hours, from banal to bored, with the long, dull stretches of straightaways at same steady speed, mile after mile. We can do the same, and should.

I used to be terrified of any kind of “selling”. How ridiculous! I’ve made my living being shot at by bad guys the world over, and yet, terrified of someone telling me “No” in a sales environment. Well, businesses don’t build themselves, and if I wanted mine to succeed, selling was a must. I took on a project that had me making 50 cold calls each week. Guess what? By the second week, desensitization worked its magic. After 6 months, I stopped the project, having gained what I needed, trepidation turned to trite. I don’t fear sales calls, sales call fear me. I don’t fear taking calculated risks, calculated risks fear me.

Identify your trepidation. GO and DO it until it becomes trite. Desensitize Yourself.

Boo Yah!

80% of Performance Isn’t Trained For By Most

My business partner, Steve Siebold, is one of the world’s leading Mental Toughness Coaches. In the past two decades, during the course of his work with Fortune 500 sales teams, he has surveyed the top executives of those companies. The surveys have shown that top executives believe that “performance” breaks down as follows:

10% comes from Skills
10% comes from Knowledge
80% comes from Attitude

Even if you believe this break down isn’t exactly right, the top executives at the top companies believe it. That leads us to ask this question, “How are we training our attitude?” If we spend any time at all on training, it is usually training to increase knowledge or skills. How many of us actually train to have a world-class attitude? If the top business executives in the world are right, that means that most of us are doing little to nothing to train the biggest piece of the Performance puzzle.

 

Boo yah!

The Hamster Wheel – What a Waste

Are you wasting mental and emotional energy on maintaining the status quo, instead of focusing your efforts on getting to where you want to be in 5 or 10 years time?  Is being on the hamster wheel sucking the life out of you?

Most people I talk to are struggling like someone who is drowning. They’re flailing about, just to maintain the status quo of their lives.
Hey, I completely understand. I struggle too, but instead of thrashing about, I focus on my ultimate vision.
Ask yourself:
Is this how I really want to be living 5 years from now? In 10? What about in 20?
If not, what’s my plan?
To do more with less? Clip more coupons? Buy more stuff from Craigslist?
If you keep doing what you’re doing, why do you think your life will be any different?
Hey, if you’re waiting on the lottery, you have a better chance of an airplane crashing into your car, while you’re driving down the Interstate…just saying.

Boo Yah!

 

Punching Stress Right In The FACE: Anticipation