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Beating Self-Limiting Beliefs

My comments in Gwen Moran’s article:

5 Habits To Get Over Self-Limiting Beliefs

by Gwen Moran – FastCompany

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A big warning sign that you have an iceberg is when you say things like, “That’s impossible” or “I have to,” says mental toughness consultant Andrew D. Wittman, PhD and the author of Ground Zero Leadership: CEO of You. When you’re feeling fear or resistance about something, it could be a sign that you have an underlying belief that is triggering those reactions.

 

SUSPEND DISBELIEF

Your icebergs may have been formed when you were a child, so they could be pretty well-entrenched and hard to shake, Wittman says. But once you find them, you need to give them a rest, even for brief periods, by suspending your disbelief that you can get beyond them. If that sounds impossible, you need to think again—you do it when you get lost in a movie or other experience that you know is not real, he says. Once you’ve silenced the belief, ask yourself how you can do the thing that you want to do but feel you can’t.

“If you say, ‘How would I?’ your brain will go to work and find all the information that would back that up, and so that puts you in the position of where you can, or at least you can find the solution to, whatever you’re facing,” Wittman says.

Stress and CEO of You

This Morning: America’s First News with Gordon Deal

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Gordon Deal interviews Andrew about handing stress, the way the brain works and how to be mentally tough.

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Engagement = 18 Times the Net

Engagement + Expectation – Frustration = 18x Your Bottom Line

Egagement Frustration

Andrew and Qualk (on WCCP 105.5 FM) discuss how organizations (of all types) that strongly engage in Performance Discipline and Mindset Training, statistically increase their bottom lines by an average of 18 times over organizations that don’t.

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Strong Engagement of:

1) Honest Assessment/Objective Reality

2) Inspiring a shared Vision

3) Competence – Always having a Solution on the board & modeling the way

4) Challenging the Process/Status Quo

Over a 30 year period of observation, organizations from Fortune 500 companies, to small businesses, to churches, to schools, to youth athletic leagues, that strongly engaged in the above mentioned areas performed at an average of 18 times the NET to their bottom lines. (The Leadership Challenge 5th Edition, Kouzes and Posner, page 27) 

All performers raise their performances to the level of expectation, and conversely lower their performances to the level of frustration.

When frustration levels become so great that expectations are equally low, take a time-out, a physical break, and cooling off period.  Hit the reset button.  Start fresh with a new focus on the 4 areas of engagement.  Soon after the new focus takes root, expectations will automatically begin to rise, and subsequently, so will performance.

 

Give the Loaf Back

“Half a loaf is better than none.”  –John Heywood (c.1497-1580)

“Half a loaf sucks compared to owning the bakery”  — Andrew Wittman (circa right now)

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How much is your dream worth to you? Would you consider giving up your dream for a job offer that was “too good to refuse”, or at least good enough to make you comfortable?

Maybe you already have sold your dream for the proverbial half a loaf. If you have accepted the half a loaf, you can either stop reading now and enjoy what’s left of the crust for the rest of your life, or read own, re-dream, and give the loaf back.

I have refused many such offers of the “half loaf”.  I’ve even walked away from some “whole loaf” offers, (to the angst of my wife).  The price of my dream is so high, almost no amount of money, comfort, “security”, benefit package, or safety net would be enough.  It’s unthinkable to me to give it up, and waste my one shot at life, building somebody else’s dream at the expense of my own.  Or worse, simply in the service of somebody who has already achieved their dream, living life as a hired gun, managing their headaches, whilst they play in the sun.

I don’t believe half is better than none.  I believe settling for half when you could have the entire bakery is worse than none.  If I walk away with none having risked going for the bakery, so be it.  You can get half a loaf at anytime, anyplace, without any effort.  How do I know? Just look around, we are surrounded by folks (maybe even glance in the mirror) gnawing on the “effortless half a loaf”.

I’d rather have none and have gone for my dream.  The half a loaf is crap, even the full loaf is crap.  Go for the bakery, if you fail, you can stand at the off-ramp of the interstate with a “Will Work For Food” sign, not mean it, and still come away with a full loaf.

Boo Yah!

80% of Performance Isn’t Trained For By Most

My business partner, Steve Siebold, is one of the world’s leading Mental Toughness Coaches. In the past two decades, during the course of his work with Fortune 500 sales teams, he has surveyed the top executives of those companies. The surveys have shown that top executives believe that “performance” breaks down as follows:

10% comes from Skills
10% comes from Knowledge
80% comes from Attitude

Even if you believe this break down isn’t exactly right, the top executives at the top companies believe it. That leads us to ask this question, “How are we training our attitude?” If we spend any time at all on training, it is usually training to increase knowledge or skills. How many of us actually train to have a world-class attitude? If the top business executives in the world are right, that means that most of us are doing little to nothing to train the biggest piece of the Performance puzzle.

 

Boo yah!

14 Secrets of Peak Performance

These secrets are right out of the Marine Corps manual.  If you want to achieve Peak Performance, start here.  The Corps has produced some of the best Mental Toughness coaches in the history of the world.  (And these coaches demand Peak Performance! I can still hear my Drill Instructor’s voice in my head, even after 29 years. Hah!) 

 

1. Justice: being fair and consistent.

 

Secrets of Peak Performance

2. Judgment: thinking about things clearly and the filter to make sound decisions.

 

3. Dependability: the ability to be relied upon.

 

4. Initiative: taking action and getting things done.

 

5. Decisiveness: the ability to make good decisions and quickly.

 

6. Integrity: being honest and truthful, even when no one is looking.

 

7. Enthusiasm: a sincere effort with genuine energy.

 

8. Bearing: carrying yourself confidently.

 

9. Unselfishness: putting others’ needs above your own.

 

10. Courage:  stand up for what is right and accept responsibility for your choices.

 

11. Knowledge: understanding the business at hand and understanding people.

 

12. Loyalty: being devoted to your team, your organization and your mutual goals.

 

13. Endurance: the stamina to overcome adversity and show this by example to others.

 

14. Tact: dealing with people in a way that fosters good relations.

 

We can’t work on all of these at once.  Go through the list one by one, each day working on a new one.  In two weeks, start the process over again and you’ll soon find your level of performance rising.

 

Boo yah!!

There Is an “I” in WIN

“When you get everyone going in the same direction as a football team, that’s when you’re dangerous. That’s when everyone believes in one another and everyone’s cheering for one another and everyone’s depending on one another and everyone’s coming through for one another and then you get your chance — boom — you take advantage, and that’s some of the best teams I’ve ever been a part of.”

Tom Brady – 3-time Super Bowl Champion

 I in WIN

I’m a huge fan of Tom Brady and the Patriots. I’m a huge fan of their coach. I’m a huge fan of champions in general and their coaches.  I study them like a scientist.  What is it that they do? How do they do it? And when do they do it?

One of the greatest things I love about Tom Brady is the fact that he was a sixth-round draft pick (#199 to be picked.) Have you ever been the last kid picked for kick-ball?  I have been, many times over.  The thing is, I was always picked around #16, never #199. Can you imagine standing there while 198 other people get picked?  Tom Brady knows what that‘s like.

From that humble start, he has become one of the winningest quarterbacks in NFL history.  Funny thing is that he has never won one single game of football by himself….EVER! Go back to the top and re-read his quote.

Whatever team you are part of, be it your family unit, business, sports club, charity, church, civic association or lodge, when everyone gets going in the same direction, and everyone is cheering for one another, believing in one another – BOOM! Fostering a culture and atmosphere like that takes enormous energy, focus, and selflessness.  When nobody is a Super-Star and above the rest, everyone on the team will become Champions.

Are you cheering for that person on your team you see as your rival? Can the team depend on you? Are you pulling in the same direction as the team or is it all about you?

Remember, there is an “I” in the word WIN,  and you have to take responsibility for yourself to be part of the team.

Boo yah!

Keeping It Classy

“One must neither celebrate too insanely when he wins or sulk when he loses….accept victory professionally and humbly…hate defeat, but make no poor display of it.”

Dan Gable 

 keeping it classy

Whether you win or lose, do it with class. It’s not about what others think about you, it shows what you think about you.  Both hubris and tantrum throwing are symptoms of the same disease, the inability to dominate yourself.  (In the South, we call it “showing out”. ) Celebrating a victory is fantastic, showboating and taunting….not so much. Unless it’s actually your first time winning anything, at all, showing out makes it look like you’ve never achieved anything before in your life, ever. Folks who act in this manner are the very same ones who throw a hissy fit when they do lose. Being disappointed by a loss is good (you shouldn’t enjoy losing), but throwing your equipment, cussing and kicking….while it certainly makes news and puts you in the spotlight, it’s not for performing well or keeping it classy.

The greatest competition we all will ever participate in is the competition against ourselves.  “You vs. You” – the main event. How will you perform?

Honestly, there are too many times that my ego, selfishness, and plain old immaturity get the upper hand against the real me.  I am in constant training for the next “main event” which can happen at any time, without notice; circumstances that present a win or a loss in life. How will I respond?

It all depends on how well I have prepared myself.  I’m certainly not undefeated against myself, but I am committed to becoming a champion.

Boo yah!